people vs relationships...

Last night, I had a very interesting conversation with an even more interesting person. Topic of discussion – ‘Managing people vs relationships!’

So generally, when we think of people in our lives, we also take into consideration the relationship we share with them – cousins/ friends/ parents etc. The two aren’t really mutually exclusive – or that’s how we see it.

But this person, who by the way is one of my dearest and closest friends, has a different theory. I am not too certain if I agree with it completely, but I intend to give it a thought – who knows it might just make life a lot simpler!

So here is what he says – Don’t always look at people or think of them with respect to the relationship you have with them. Look at them minus the “R” factor – as individuals who form an integral part of your system. Whenever a relationship is in troubled waters or in doldrums, you end up thinking – will I lose this friend/ person? Will he still be there for me after all that’s happened?

While this might apply to most people around, there is still that bunch of guys who will stay – these are the ones who will not leave you just because some things did not work out between the two of you or you had a squabble or a disagreement or a really rough patch. These are the ones who really are a part of you and your life. This is where you need to have FAITH - in that PERSON more than the relationship. Believe that, no matter what, these are the people who will always be by your side. They will be your confidence and your support.

So see beyond just the tie that links you both. See what that person really brings to your life.

I know this sounds too theoretical, but somewhere down the line, I see where it’s coming from. And I will work towards following it. And I know it will be worth the effort. For, it comes from one such person who is undoubtedly a beautiful part of my life.